“2019….The Year of ________”. I have found myself walking around for the last few days trying things on for size by filling in that blank. Most of them have been quite ridiculous and annoying to those around me as I proclaim things like… “2019 – The Year of Singing Every Answer” in my best Salt-N-Pepa beat. Seriously though, I gave up resolutions long ago and have found that my New Year tradition of REFLECTION and INTENTION has instead served me well.
This New Year’s Eve or Day try setting aside time to REFLECT on the past year. It is a good practice to look back over the last 12 months and spend time remembering accomplishments, tasks, celebrations and losses. I find that breaking it down month by month (even looking back at my calendar) allows me to deeply reflect on specific events.
This year I have three specific questions that I have used to guide my reflection. These came from @MarieForleo and are perfect for wrapping up a year.
What's one thing you did that you are proud of?
What's one mistake you made and the lesson you learned from it?
What's one limiting self-belief you're ready to let go of before the New Year?
Instead of resolutions or goals I prefer to use the word INTENTION. Regardless what you call it, the next step is about forward momentum. For the last several years I have begun this next step by envisioning what emotions I want to evoke in the coming year and visualize what small steps I can take to in order to manifest those specific feeling. These are examples of some questions I may ponder.
How do I want to feel in 2019?
What are some action steps I can take that will help bring that feeling to me?
What am I willing to let go of that no longer serves me?
Will I continue to put that same goal on my list that just does not fire me up?
Are there things that I need to re-prioritize? Say no to?
NOW the next step– STICKING TO IT!!!
Here are a few tips that have been proven to help people commit to the intention, goal or resolution long enough for them to stick.
Choose to focus on something that is meaningful to YOU.
Avoid a long list of things, keep it simple. None of us need MORE to do.
Create a visual. (Maps, Vision Board, List, Pictures, Meditation)
Develop a plan. Make space for it to happen. Be intentional.
Take small incremental action steps and be kind to yourself through the process of change.
Find a support system. (Friend, Partner, Groups, Coach)
Celebrate!!! Even the smallest of victories deserve to be rewarded.
What will be your theme for 2019? Feel free to sing a little Salt-N-Pepa while you proclaim that 2019 will be….The Year of ________!!